Focus on your Natural Gifts

You have certain skills and abilites that you love to use, are super good at and have a nearly unlimited ceiling if you continue to develop what has come naturally to you.  When you use these abilities and skills it brings you fulfillment and often joy.  By making these central to what ever you "do" for a living then you are making it something you can truely flourish in. 

Follow your Heart and Soul
When you follow your heart and soul you will experience being full.  When you leave your heart and soul out of your life you will feel empty.

Values and Meaning are important
When you apply your natural gifts to what has meaning and value for you, then there is an exponential l increase in your fulfilment.

Love more and when in doubt give love, always love.
Loving is never wrong.


You are enough just the way you are.
There is no place you need to get to, no one you need to become.  Where ever and who ever you are right now is enough.   You are intrinsically loveable exactly how you are now.  Simply existing is enough.
That you have ever separated from that knowing comes from life experiences.  If you connect to the kernel that is truly "you" inside your existence and connect that kernel to the love that flows at that depth in the family you and the ancestors you come from, at that level underneath all the difficulty and challenges that have affected the showing of love and connection on the surface, is a deep flow that of life and love that is your birthright, it is what is what we are all truly part of, even if we feel disconnected or unloved at the level we live in and currently relate to. 


Surrender to Life
What ever you are in be in it fully, feel it fully.  You don't have to like it but if you are able to be in it fully and feel what ever you are experiencing fully then you are in the centre of your life and also in the centre of the space you can begin to change or transform from.  The extent from which you are able to be in life regardless of the circumstances is also the extent you can really claim and be in all that is marvellous and wonderful.  

Having more doesn't make you happy or more fulfilled.  The answer is not more.
If you live in a place of lack, not having enough, having more seems like the answer.  As long as you live from a place of internal lack you will never ever have enough.  The change needs to come from inside.

Giving vs Getting
Giving is what really fulfils humans, when we can touch another, when we can make difference. 

The Journey is the Destination
Life is a journey and if we are only waiting to get somewhere we often never arrive.  We can do two things, we can live in each moment, living life now and we can make each step on our journey full and rich. 

Growth is Always Happening
Growth is always happening and you can grow in ways that help you and you can grow in ways that don't support what you value most.

Failure is not wrong
I know my response to possible failure is to avoid it.  This has greatly limited my life.  When I can see possible failure and accept it as a possible outcome, but worth the risk of living rather than something to be avoided at all costs, then it transforms my experience.  When I can be with it and stay open either with it as a possibility or as an outcome then I can really learn and grow.  When I try to avoid failure through dysfunctional approaches like quitting, because it is less painful to quit than to risk failure, then I really lose.  When I can give my 100% and grow from truly being in the experience, even if I fail, then I gain an exceptional ability to rise to new levels in life.  This is new for me and I really love this.

Be willing to be hurt in life
I was thinking of someone I knew who had a very traumatic childhood and yet was so in life and so alive!  I knew that compared to her, I wasn’t in life close to the degree that she was.   I felt into what was different for her, from me and what I discovered was she was willing to be hurt in life and that allowed her to be in life in a way that I wasn't willing to be.  I saw that I have lived my whole life to avoid being hurt.  
I realized that if I wanted to really live life I needed to be willing to accept that, that I would experience hurt at times in my life and that that was just something that was just how it is.

I made the shift and life changed.  

Living life to avoid being hurt is like playing a sport but having the goal being to avoid injury, not to win the game,(or even participate fully) it is a huge handicap.   To win one has to bring everything they have to the game (or life).  Winning life to me means, showing up fully, being open and being the fullest expression of what my essence is, giving full form and expression to that.